This is 35: Thoughts about Wisdom, Passion and Grace

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I'm not big on birthday celebrations. For the last 10 years, it's just been another day older for me, but I had a few thoughts on things I've learned or had become more emphasized in my life.

So, for the big 3-5, here are my 3 thoughts and 5 tips:

1. Education does not equal intelligence, intelligence does not equal wisdom.

The only difference between being smart and being wise - is everything.
— Bob Goff

With wisdom being the goal, one has to keep an open mind while maintaining their core values. Every year I feel a little bit more wise, and little bit more mature, but I've still got a long way to go. There's tons of stuff I don't know and plenty of things I've been wrong about.

My motto is to question everything, even if it's something you've believed your whole life. Why do you believe it? Challenge it and walk through your reasoning. You don't become wise by accumulating knowledge or refusing to entertain new information after you've come to a conclusion about something.

I encounter many people who simply won't look at valid arguments against their opinion, and conversely, I speak with many friends discouraged by this type of reaction. I remind them they are planting seeds and don't underestimate that! Also, a good reminder for those who love to debate:

Ask them if any reasoning is valid or not. If they say no then their own doctrines, being reached by reasoning, fall to the ground. If they say yes, then they will have to examine your arguments and refute them on their merits. For if some reasoning is valid, for all they know your bit of reasoning may be one of the valid bits.
— C.S. Lewis - The Pilgrim's Regress

2. This is my journey.

As a healthy living blogger with several food and chemical sensitivities and woke about the corruption of this world, I share a lot (A LOT) of information I stumble upon and uncover. I may not be the cup of tea for the average beauty enthusiast looking for the cheapest, "less" toxic skin and body products, and that's ok. 

The bottom line is, this world is a toxic place. I share bits and pieces about I'm doing, what's working for my family and insight into why. This does not mean it's right for you! It doesn't mean what you're doing or not doing is wrong!

The reason I started this blog was to share my story working through PCOS naturally after being failed by modern medicine for 15 years. And in that time, I've had countless women reach out to me in tears explaining how my posts have helped them feel heard, get on the right path to little pain relief and even get pregnant!

Just last week, I got the sweetest message from my friend Laurel of Laurel Whole Plant Organics - these messages always come at the right time and remind me of why I keep this blog running.

This is my platform and I will continue sharing my life and things I dig up because it matters. It matters to people who have been or are hopeless, confused and angry about the same things I am.

They matter. We matter. I am not going to shut up.

Got fire in my bones, boy, got words to say, Lord knows I’m not home but I’m on my way!
— Mat Kearney, One Black Sheep

3. Grace beats winning

The fight for justice is in my blood. It's unshakeable and I wouldn't have it any other way. However, like most people, particularly in marriages, one tends to lean heavy on truth, the other on grace. I've always been heavy footed on truth, but as I've gotten older, the grace is creeping in more and more and I quite like it.

Many things that would have offended me years ago, now don't carry any weight. I don't pick as many fights as I used to...don't get me wrong, I still get fired up, just mention Monsanto, mandatory inoculation, human trafficking or child molestation and I'll unleash on a nuclear level. But I'm tending to keep myself together and figuring out which fights are worth starting and/or joining. Either that or I'm just too tired these days (and/or hormonally balanced)!

But really.

Eternal-mindedness keeps us from silly arguments. There’s no time to fight. We have better things to pursue than our interests. Too much is at stake! God created us for a purpose. We can’t afford to waste our lives. We can’t afford to waste our marriage by merely pursuing our own happiness.
— Francis Chan, Marriage in Light of Eternity

I feel like this quote can be used in so many contexts. What's your fight worth? 

Grace doesn't mean lying to keep the peace or allowing injustice to go on. In many cases, for me, it means looking inward instead of outward, lifting people up instead of putting them down, shutting down gossip and letting God defend me instead of defending myself.

You're beliefs don't make you a free thinker

With that, I'll summarize with these 5 tips:

  • Strive to be wise

  • Challenge the status quo even though it's uncomfortable

  • Question and examine yourself, even though that's even more uncomfortable

  • Balance truth and grace

  • Stop Bickering; Find a worthy fight and lead or join the charge

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